What does this mean? Let us first look at the origin of the word "dwelling".
We are looking at the origin of the word because we can recognize that our thinking, feeling and emotions derive primarily from our internal use of words.
Although we are affected by words said to us by others we listen to these words and then interpret them in line with our own understanding and meaning of those particular words.
Often of course we can misinterpret what the other person is saying and this of course leads to confusion and unfortunately to argument.
The relevance in this article is the impact of those words that are of an internal nature-either caused by our thinking or remembering or our interpretation of what others have said to us.
Usually we tend to think about the negative thoughts that arise in our mind and the more that we think about such negative thoughts then the more we can elaborate on them and this leads us to create internal detailed conversations and scenarios founded from those words.
We create arguments and discussions and we do this endlessly and they become trapped in our minds.
From these situations we are then seen to be dwelling on the words, the scenarios and the feelings.
The meaning of the word "dwelling" is defined as the place in which we live and normally of course this is our home.
But within ourselves we live always within our Mind.
The home is the physical world but the mind is the mental dwelling and so this is the place where all those thoughts, feelings and emotions sit and can agitate amongst themselves.
Within here can lie anger, hurt, aggression, fear, disappointment and all the other endless self destructive thoughts.
This thinking does not leave us-it stays within and creates an everlasting imprint on our minds and on our nature.
Sometimes we can be hurt during the day by something that someone else says or does which we then see as being an attack on us at some level.
Usually we react but sometimes we do not.
Whether we react or not the event and the emotional feelings still stay within our mind-on the surface of our mind.
It lies there because our ego is feeling damaged and so we constantly think about it-we reflect on the circumstances- we often rewrite the script in our minds and then we constantly review it again and again and again.
For some this can last all night and sleep becomes impossible.
The more we think about it then the worse it becomes and the more it adds to our negative emotional feelings.
This can of course create anxiety and stress and so it stays within us for not only later recall but the impact on our physical self can be damaging as well as the impact on our mental health.
In our mind we are "dwelling" on the issue and on the feeling and emotions.
This sets in process the Self Destructive Cycle of thinking followed by behavior and then actions.
The result of our behavior and actions can of itself perpetuate the problem and so we find ourselves in a continuing cycle of self destructiveness.
The cycle continues - the more we dwell then the more we are impacted by the emotional results and this may then turn to our negative behavioral actions which may then cause us to feel more levels of frustration and even anger at ourselves for our inability to stop the behavior which is causing us so many problems.
We almost feel powerless to stop or to help ourselves.
We feel that we have lost control.
Conversely we can also consider another way.
The concept of No-Dwelling.
We recognize that such events or instances in our life create negative thinking and negative responses and through self understanding we can see that such a process is self destructive and so we reach a decision in which we will not allow ourselves to become self indulgent and continue this process of Dwelling.
We decide that we will practice the art of No-Dwelling.
This comes from Mind training.
The development of self discipline in which you decide how you will spend your time thinking and what type of thinking you will allow yourself to do.
If there is something negative then you will decide that you will not allow yourself to "dwell" on anything of a negative nature.
We usually allow these thoughts to "procrastinate" within our mind rather than simply realizing their lack of value and then just letting them go.
In order to practice and cultivate the virtue of "No-Dwelling" we must therefore see and understand the following:
- Our Mind likes to "dwell" on events of a negative nature.
- Our Mind is creative and from this "dwelling" our emotional reactions (feelings) will arise.
- From these feelings further scenarios will be created within our Minds
- We will usually continue to "dwell" and experience the negative effects of this mental activity
- The "dwelling" will usually affect us in a physical way-we will become stressed and anxious
- To continue life in this way we will become "Mastered by our Mind"
- Although we may superficially forget the particular event however the impact of it will still remain in our Mind and the outcome will remain in our Body
- We can examine our Mind-we can practice watching our Mind and watching the impact of thoughts on our body.
- When we are thinking or watching something which causes us "stress" or "anxiety" we can examine the impact of this on our body.
- We can then chose not to allow ourselves to think anything that will give rise to "stressful or anxious " feelings or responses
- By continually watching our Mind we can train it to let these events pass by quickly so they will not remain in our mind and will not be given the chance to affect us physically.
The mind can be a powerful force for our wellbeing and our mental state but equally it can be a terrible destructive influence.
By carefully understanding the nature of our mind, by learning to relax and practicing the Virtue of Harmony we can slowly begin the understanding and then the cultivation of our Mind.